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Read MoreWedding TV Show's You Shouldn't Watch
Okay brides, you get home from work or school and turn on the TV as you flip through the channels you may come across wedding shows like TLC's Four Weddings, Say Yes to The Dress, Bridezilla or even David Tuteras "My Fair Wedding." While entertaining, these types of shows can hinder your planning process more than help; and here is why:
We TV's Bridezilla - Well this one is obvious, just because you are getting married you do not have an excuse to be ridiculous and treat your friends, family or fiancé badly.
TLC's Say Yes to The Dress - The gowns are beautiful and the brides usually do walk away with the gown of their dreams, but it's the idea of bringing your whole entourage with you to judge or comment on your gown that is a real downer. I think the bridal consultant would agree that having a maid of honor or other family member like your mother or grooms mother present is special; the only opinion that the bridal consultant wants to hear is yours. If you feel beautiful and special in a gown, you shouldn't let your 10 friends who came along tear down your choice.
TLC's Four Weddings - Your wedding is not a competition, in real life you will not have a panel of judges with a score card rating each component such as food or atmosphere. Please don't lose sight of what will make your day special to you and your fiancé because you want to please others and impress them with your wedding.
My Fair Wedding - Built on the premise that bride's can wait until months or even weeks before the wedding to get things in order and someone (David Tutera) will magically come in and save the day. At this point the brides have usually made purchases and have deposits with vendors, and David comes in and "rescues" their wedding morphing it into a big (admittedly beautiful) production. (Image courtesy of channelguidemagblog.com)
When you are planning your wedding it is easy to absorb yourself into anything and everything wedding, but you should try to have a healthy balance. Make sure you spend just as much time doing non-wedding things and most importantly focus on communicating and enjoying your soon to be husband. The better your relationship before walking down the aisle, the better it will be in years to come.
Lastly, remember your wedding is not a contest or an excuse to behave badly! Hire professional vendors and you will have no problem staying on track and within your budget for your big day.
~Happy Planning~
For The Wedding Party
You have been trusted with the important role of a bridesmaid, but you don’t know what the bride needs or wants from you? We are here to help!
If you ask a bride what you can do to help, chances are she won’t be able to even explain all of the little details that are swirling around in her head. So how can you help your bride when she is in overload mode? Listen.
We aren’t saying that you have to devote the next six months to a year to wedding sessions with her but when you are talking to her make sure that you are understanding of how much she has on her plate. Wedding planning is supposed to be fun, so do your best to put a smile on her face and remind her that you are there if she needs your help. Offering to do projects or help organize her wedding plans is a nice gesture and shows that you do want to help if she needs it.
What is expected of a bridesmaid? Here are some of the common roles of a bridesmaid:
- Offer to help with specific tasks such as tying bows on programs or menus etc - Lend a hand with double checking the RSVP’s or mailing list as a second pair of eyes - Assist with music selection, offer suggestions for playlist if needed -Assist with selecting attire for wedding party -Snap photos of the wedding process to add to the Bride’s album -Assemble favors, decor etc if needed -Assist with tracking gifts at wedding shower for thank-you cards - Learn how to bustle the wedding dress & these are just a few!
We know all of this wedding stuff can get expensive with buying a bridesmaids dress, shoes & sometimes taking off work to attend wedding functions. Check out some of our DIY related posts to give you some ideas on how to throw the best bridal shower, bachelorette party or assist with wedding projects for less!
(Read DIY related posts here on The 530 Bride.)
If you are an out of town bridesmaid and don’t know how to offer a hand from long distance you may want to see if there is any research you can help with such as looking at local restaurants for the rehearsal dinner or offer to help with room blocks or other tasks that can be done over the phone or online.
The most important part of being a member of the wedding party is sharing the experiences of planning and celebrating such an important day in the couple’s lives. Though it is nice to have a bridesmaid around to help with planning, it may not be possible for you to be present at all times and the couple will understand.
Here are a few resources for bridesmaids from those who have walked in your heels!
Bridesmaid Tips & Advice
Bridesmaid.com
Always a Blogsmaid
The Knot
Choosing Your Wedding Registry
By Alisha Rouland, Event Coordinator Registering for a wedding is equal parts exhilarating and confusing. With each beep of the scanner, you begin to more clearly see your future – teal kitchen aid here; purple bath towels there; 1,000 count linens- check; fine china – umm, is this really necessary? There are so many traditional registry ideas that we can get lost in it all. In my opinion, it is most important to consider what type of items you and your groom actually need and want. Luckily, there are extensive options for registries today that allow any couple to choose the best registry that defines their needs and style.
The Honey Moon Registry - This option allows the couple to register for honeymoon experiences, rather than fine china or bath towels. From airfare and travel expenses, to meals and drinks, to surf lessons, rounds of golf, shopping sprees, massages, or romantic cruises - your guests can gift you items that allow you to customize your perfect honeymoon. There are many honeymoon registries available, visit them all and find the one that best fits your needs. You may want to consider researching expiration dates, set up or transaction fees, whether or not you are truly getting a good deal, if your desired honeymoon destination is offered, or if exclusive vendors must be used. Also, Keep in mind that you most likely will purchase your airfare before your guests complete your honeymoon registry – you might want to inquire if travel expenses can be reimbursed or transferred to another item on your registry
- www.honeymoonwishes.com - Includes: Downloadable announcements to print, email announcement wizard, wedding website, full online photo album, wedding blog, and a share tool to post your registry on Facebook, Twitter and other social media site
- www.honeyfund.com - Allows you to calculate the estimated cost of your honeymoon (flight, driving or cruise cost, number of nights, type of desired accommodations, dining, beverages, excursions and/or activities.)
- www.travelersjoy.com - Partners with well-known wedding sites such as The Knot and Wedding Wire and do not charge a guest fee.
- www.wanderable.com - Wanderable provides a thank you tracker and iPhone app that allows the couple to share their experiences with their guests by sending a digital ‘thank you’ postcard.
The Traditional Registry - This option allows the couple to register for household items such as kitchen appliances, pots and pans, furniture, décor, linens, and items that they may not have bought on their own. Check out the 10 Registry Tips from The Knot. Among some of the tips: check for store return policies, register for gifts in a variety of price points, and register for items you actually need (how often do you plan on using that expensive fine china?) and items that you may not purchase on your own (teal kitchen aid mixer – yes please!)
A few commonly used traditional registries include (but are absolutely not limited to): Bed, Bath, & Beyond; Macys; Crate and Barrel; Williams and Sonoma; Target; Pottery Barn; or Amazon.com. Consider registering at a locally owned store - don’t be afraid to choose a store that fits your unique style.
The Multi-Site Registry – This registry option allows couples to register for multiple items at multiple stores all from a single website. You can register for almost anything: typical household items, entertainment tickets, travel, electronics, outdoor furniture, motorcycles, camping gear, jewelry and much more!
- www.registrylove.com - Registry Love lets the couple register for anything from anywhere – from local retailers to retailers that do not have online website to honeymoon and adventure registries.
- www.simpleregistry.com -Same options as Registry Love and allows for group gifting, and a mobile scanner app so you can add an item to your registry anytime, anywhere.
- www.myregistry.com - Allows you to put your entire registry on Facebook, add gifts with your phone, and allows you to sync pre-existing registries.
- www.knackregistry.com - Allows you to create a registry full of unique items not available from national retailers.
The Homeowner’s Registry – This registry option allows guests to put money towards a couples’ new home, or provide renovation, remodeling, or decor to an existing home. Before signing up for a Home Registry, consider the fees and restrictions involved, and how/where you can spend your gifted money.
- www.hatchmyhouse.com – Allows couples to design their ideal house. Guests can gift money, which can be used to purchase parts of the house (like windows or doors) or provide general funding towards a downpayment.
- www.mydreamhomeregistry.com/index.aspx - Gives couples the opportunity to register for things like paint, flooring, furniture, and/or remodeling costs.
The Charity Registry – This registry option allows the couple to raise money for their favorite cause(s).
- www.justgive.org - Just Give gives you the option to choose from more than 1.8 million different charities.
- www.idofoundation.org - Partners with www.justgive.org, and gives you the option of choosing charitable favors.
The Gift Card Registry – www.cardavenue.com - Card Avenue lets couples choose gift cards from over 500 stores, restaurants and services.
The Experience Registry – www.newlywish.com - Newly Wish provides guests with the opportunity to gift a variety of gifts from kitchen and linens, to spas and fitness centers, to dancing lessons and theater visits, to sporting and cultural events.
The Cash Registry – www.weddingrepublic.com - Wedding Republic allows couples to get money without necessarily asking for money and allows your guests to see what their contribution is going towards.
Planning with Class
At first the Bridezilla movement was a little shocking but pretty entertaining. These days there is a network of television shows and websites specifically about being a bridezilla. While stress can make us do wacky things, we should not be encouraging or celebrating this type of tantrum-throwing behavior! If you feel an outburst coming on, stick to our three step plan of keeping yourself in check! 1. Ask for honesty - After you get over that sparkly new ring let your close friends know that you want them to call you on it if you start getting over the top. You may need someone to snap you into reality when you get overwhelmed.
2. Use your resources - If your vendors told you that you can contact them if you have any questions, than do so. Let them know that you need some extra help on the issue at hand so that you can rest assured you have a professional on your side.
3. Focus on your Fiancé - Make sure to pay attention to your soon to be Mr. so that you don't lose sight of what this whole thing is about. Spend time together and make sure to set limits to wedding conversations so that you both enjoy the process while still enjoying your day-to-day lives.
Get Glowing Skin With These 12 Super Foods
Posted by Alisha Rouland, Event Coordinator with The 530 Bride There are countless preparatory measures a bride can take to look her very best on her wedding day: from whitening to tanning to exercising to waxing and everything in between. With all the extra steps we take prior to our wedding to ensure a perfect bridal glow, we may overlook one of the most effective and most permanent ways to attain that healthy glow: our nutrition. Check out twelve ways to promote your perfect bridal glow! *Please note that this is by no means an all inclusive list - just a few highly recognized super foods for skin health!*
#1: Blueberries
Blueberries are proof that great things really do come in small packages. These tiny morsels are very rich in antioxidants, which help to prevent free radicals from damaging and destroying collagen – keeping your skin elastic and plump. Blueberries are also low in fat, high in fiber, and high in vitamin C – which not only aids collagen formation, but also strengthens your immune system! No one wants to be sick on their wedding day! Try adding some blueberries to a smoothie, your cereal, or some yogurt!
#2: Salmon
Salmon has high levels of an essential healthy fat: omega-3. The nutrients in salmon can help reduce skin inflammation, fight against dry skin, improve skin elasticity, and diminish fine lines, wrinkles and occurrences of clogged pores. Salmon is also rich in protein and other beneficial vitamins and minerals.
#3: Tomatoes
Tomatoes are one of my favorites fruits! Especially the delicious gems I pick from my own garden! Tomatoes are packed full of many vitamins that promote good health! There are many great things to say about tomatoes, but Vitamin A (same vitamin in carrots!) is important for the health of your eyes, hair, and skin, while Vitamin C helps to strengthen your immune system!
#4: Walnuts and Almonds
Just like salmon, walnuts have healthy omega-3 fatty acids that prevent damage to skin cells, aid in moisture retention to soothe dry skin, reduce inflammation, and can even help to protect against UV rays. Vitamin E found in both almonds and walnuts is a powerful antioxidant that protects against skin cell damage. Nuts are a fantastic on-the-go snack or add to cereal, yogurt, or salads. Not only are nuts excellent for skin health, they are heart healthy and good for your brain!
#5: Dark Chocolate
Not that you really need a reason to eat chocolate, but flavanols or the antioxidant in Dark Chocolate strengthens skin cells and can reduce the effect of UV rays on the skin! Unfortunately, this skin fighting benefit isn't uniform among all chocolate products, look for dark chocolate with high levels of cacao.
#6: Sweet Potatoes
Similarly to carrots, sweet potatoes contain high levels of beta-carotene (Vitamin A) and are a good source of Vitamin C. Vitamin A aids in generating new skin cells and vitamin C assists collagen production to maintain skin elasticity.
#7: Green Tea
Green tea has been termed, ‘the fountain of youth' because of its high levels catechins (or antioxidants.) Green tea catechins, chiefly EGCG has been shown to reactivate dry skin cells. Green Tea is also rich in vitamins C, D, and K, and the minerals zinc, calcium, magnesium, and iron.
#8: Whole Grains and Brown Rice
Not only do whole grains pack a high fiber punch that keeps you full and regular, they contain high levels of B vitamins. B Vitamins help to maintain energy levels and metabolism, but also to generate new skin and hair cells and retain skin moisture.
#9: Avocado
Avocados are another favorite of mine! Avocados are excellent sources of healthy fats, fiber, vitamin E, vitamin C, and vitamin B. Vitamin E is another powerful antioxidant that prevents cell damage and protects skin. Vitamin C, as mentioned before assists in collagen formation and prevents cell damage.
#10: Flax Seeds
Flax seeds have the powerful omega-3 fatty acid that helps your skin cells attract moisture which reduces appearance of wrinkles, and reduces skin irritation. Flax seeds can be added to pretty much anything - throw some in your morning smoothie, or try mixing some into your pancakes (see recipe below!)
#11: Carrots
Carrots are excellent sources for vitamin A, which is an essential vitamin for developing and maintain healthy skin cells. Not only do carrots have fiber and other essential vitamins, they are also high in damage-preventing antioxidants.
#12: Water
I know it’s not necessarily a food, but water is probably one of the most important steps to achieving healthy skin. Water hydrates your entire body – including your skin cells. Water helps to remove toxins from your body, and deliver nutrients throughout your body. You can eat plenty of vitamin and mineral-rich fruits and vegetables, and omega-3 rich foods, but without water, nutrients cannot be edelivered to necessary cells in the body.
I am a huge fan of multi-tasking, and that carries into my meal planning. Here are a few recipes that include two or more of the above-mentioned super foods!
1. Salmon Spaghetti with Plum Tomatoes and Avocado (Salmon, Tomatoes, Avocado)
2. Blueberry, Watermelon and Walnut Salad (Blueberries, Walnuts - add some shredded carrots for some extra crunch!)
3. CrockPot Recipe for Sweet and Spicy Ground Turkey and Sweet Potato Stew with Coconut Milk (Sweet potatoes, brown rice)
4. Green Tea and Dark Chocolate Torte - (Green Tea, Dark Chocolate, Almonds)
5. Sweet Potato and Flax Pancakes - (Sweet potato, Flax Seed)
6. Lastly, Water. Infuse your water with blueberries or seasonal fruit, or enjoy plain!
References:
1. Price, M. (2010). Vitamin E on Hair & Skin. Retrived from http://www.livestrong.com/article/106234-vitamin-e-hair-skin/
2. Gaynes, S. Healthy Skin From the Inside Out. Retrieved from http://www.womenshealthmag.com/beauty/perfect-skin-diet
3. Tucker, J. (2012). Sweet Potatoes For A Younger Looking Skin And Other Health Benefits. Retrieved from http://www.amoils.com/health-blog/sweet-potatoes-for-a-younger-looking-skin-and-other-health-benefits/
4. Hoffman Center Staff. EGCG - potent extract of green tea. Retrieved from http://www.drhoffman.com/page.cfm/118.
5. Whole Grains Coucil. Whole Grains: An Important Source of Essential Nutrients. Retrieved from http://wholegrainscouncil.org/whole-grains-101/whole-grains-an-important-source-of-essential-nutrients
6. California Avocado Commission. Avocado Nutrients. Retrieved from http://www.californiaavocado.com/avocado-nutrients/
Planning Tip: Avoiding Temptation
When you are in the planning stages for your upcoming nuptials, you may be tempted to go into "shopping mode" where anything wedding-ish ends up in your cart. To keep your budget in check you should avoid making purchases until you are clear on what you actually need to buy. One of the side effects of shopping mode is that you end up buying odds and ends which in the end can clash with your overall decor.
DIY Projects are probably the biggest culprit when it comes to blowing your budget because even though the purchases seem small, it adds up in the end and you may not even end up finishing the project or get intended results.
Once you have booked your wedding coordinator, venue, caterer, florist and/or event decor & rental company, you can go down the list of anything that isn't already provided by these vendors and then purchase or rent the remaining items as needed. Often one vendor may have several services and products under one roof and they may even offer discounts for combining different services or products.
So next time you're tempted to make an impulse buy at Michaels or your local wedding store, make sure that you are sticking to your list. Your budget will thank us!
Posted by Veronica Enns
Real Bride Feature: 50s Housewife Themed Bridal Shower
"From the moment I laid eyes on my 50s inspired tea length wedding gown, I knew I'd eventually have a "housewife" themed bridal shower. Besides that parallel, I love the era, music and clothes. The decade is also perfect for the theme because of its emphasis on cooking,cleaning and appearance, which really lends to the kinds of gifts you receive at a shower. We found invites on Etsy and printed them out on cardstock paper at Mr. Kopy when we did our DIY invites in February and—after a long wait and lots of hard work— we (my mom, maid of honor and I) were able to throw a Pinterest-worthy shower!
The first part in planning this shower was finding a venue I could afford in my $200-250 budget, meaning free.
Pictured at left is our bridal shower VENUE, which is actually a small clubhouse at my great-grandparent's mobile home park in Los Molinos, CA. The tables, chairs, couches and full kitchen were all provided, for free, by the park and it could easily seat 40 people, though only around 20 came.
The decor really already added to the theme, with it's mismatched chairs and floral cushions, but we added checkerboard tablecloths from Party Town (found in the Spring/ Easter section) and strung my mother's apron collection from clothesline around the whole party. We also added baloons (not pictured) outside and the "bride to be" banner is from the dollar store. {Sidenote: I had no idea my mother was such an apron connoisseur. I love it…}
We had really nice engagement pictures gifted by my good friend Chanie (at left), owner of Chanie Bee Photography, that were displayed in my home already. We decided to bring them over to add to the decor and blew up one shot (on top of the display) into a 16x20 at Walmart for SO cheap. It's fake canvas, cost around $20 and we were able to bring it home later to hang. What a deal!!!!
We also used more pictures scattered around centerpieces and table decorations.
All the flowers were bought at the supermarket and cut down by my MOH to fit cute little vases. We had so many extra after that we made a bouquet for my mom to take home.
FOOD AND DRINKS
For drinks we served pink lemonade (with strawberry slices) and ice water (with lemon/ orange slices) in large, 3 gallon, beverage containers I got at Walmart for $20 each. My MOH created little labels for everything out of craft paper to match our theme, which really helped with all the food.
We got quiche lorraine and artichoke/spinish quiche in pie form at Costco and also served crustless chicken salad sandwiches with almonds (my mom's recipe) and tiny cucumber sandwiches. In addition to heavy food we also provided watermelon fruit bowls and spinach dip, which we ordered pre-made from our local Raley's.
The real star of the shower was my AMAZING cake gifted to me by my MOH.
She got it at Cake is the Best Part in Redding and it was strawberry filled in one layer and banana flavored in another (my favorites). I really love the fondant detailing in the cake which featured aprons, necklaces, a sewing machine, heels, cupcakes and a "homemade pie"/ rolling pin.
DECORATIONS
We used a combination of old household items and floral arrangements as centerpieces, which we scored at an antique shop. Among antiques were cookie jars, scales, pots and pans, picnic baskets, timers and handheld mixers. We also had framed "housewife rules" from a real issue of "Better Homes & Garden" from the 50s.
My MOH re-configured the images/ text on her laptop and just bought cheap frames.
MAKE US A PART OF YOUR CELEBRATION
When planning a shower remember to allow proper breathing time to mingle (don't rush games), to bring backup food and drinks for extra guests and relax, it's your day to shine.
To plan YOUR Pinterest-worthy shower contact our offices and ask about A la Carte Service Packages, which include Bridal Shower coordination and hourly consultations.
We look forward to hearing from you!
By Christina Rafael, Intern/ Assistant Coordinator
Lost in Wedding Planning Chaos?
Posted by Kendall Arelleis, Event Coordinator with The 530 Bride I ran across an image online the other day, and it really hit home. It reads:
Needless to say, I now have it set as my computer background.
No one hides the fact that planning a wedding can be stressful. We hear stories of "Bridezillas", partly as cautionary tales, partly as laughable fair warning, as if it's inescapable. It's also widely pronounced that Brides-to-be should try to enjoy this time, as if that's possible while sitting in a circle of receipts, toolkit budgets and contact lists, magazine clippings, half-finished DIY projects, and so many rewritten to-do lists that you've lost track of which is the most recent. Note to "self": start writing dates and times on any loose wedding scratch paper.
As a professional planning my own wedding, it's semi-shocking to me that it is a lot scarier when it's 100% on your shoulders, rather than assisting a bride with her vision. I sympathize with all brides, myself included. How does one do this without an army of help, and either a vacation from work, or else a really nice boss who'll let you sneak hits of Pinterest and online shopping?
The better question is "How do I keep this from consuming my life?" As a Bride, I find myself lying awake fretting about not having booked my makeup stylist yet, whether I made the right choice for my veil, which design would be best on the programs, and weighing out my floral options. And then there's the nightmares; whether it's showing up naked to your wedding, or falling behind schedule, sometimes it seems better to lie awake fretting. I think it's quite possible internal monologues of "The Little Engine That Could" chanting "I think I Can, I think I Can" counts as talking to yourself.
We say all the time that Brides need to find a balance between their day-to-day lives and planning this memorable day, but the best I can get is, "Hey honey, let's go out to a nice dinner, and then I won't shut up about brainstorming for our photo session next week", or, "Let's cuddle on the couch and watch Wreck It Ralph, and while we do that, I'm going to finish the wax seals on these last invitations."
However, there is one adage about wedding planning that is absolutely true and endlessly comforting; the marriage bit is all worth it.
Other truths I've learned to be...well, true:
1. Give yourself an appropriate amount of time to plan. more than a few months to plan ; having a small wedding doesn't exempt you from all the hullabaloo.
2. Don't be afraid to ask for help, no matter how self-reliant you are.
3. Be sensible with your budget. Know where to splurge, how to sacrifice, and when to hussle! Read more about how to make a wedding work on a tight budget.
4. Work closely with your vendors; they are a wealth of information, and can save you the headache of trying to figure things out on your own.
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If you'd like to share your story of wedding planning madness, we're here to listen and console.
Posted by Kendall Arelleis, Event Coordinator with The 530 Bride
Wedding films and happy tears
By Christina Rafael
Much like my love for all things Nicholas Sparks and Adele, I love a good cry.
Though my fiance makes fun of my ability to shed tears at the start of a sad song (or really good Google commercial), wedding films are the icing on the cake to my cry sessions.
Something about the combination of music to the happiness of vows, change of family dynamics and new beginnings always guarantees a lunge for the tissue box.
So grab a Kleenex and take a look at my top 3 favorite wedding films:
Wiley & Mallory - lifestagefilms.com
I mean, come on…this man's vows win every award! The way he looks at her during her vow reading, the soft "baby" as she finishes and that crying break at 1:27 had me in tears immediately.
I think what I like most about this film is that the love these two have for one another is apparent in every action captured. Their story wasn't convenient and lacked storybook effortlessness but the couple worked hard to stay together, despite all odds, and had their happy ending. His vows were the structure this film needs to pull the best kinds of heart strings.
Jake & Jordan - www.alealovely.com
I think what really gets me in this film is the family dynamics. From the family members featured on her bouquet to the dad/ bride moment, it's all Hallmark gold. I also loved the idea of writing a letter to your bride/ groom to be read before you see each other and might steal it. ;)
As Jordan reads the lines referencing "the mother to my children" and "the grandmother to my grandchildren" I can't help but wipe away some happy tears. What a sweet idea, great groom and amazing words to capture.
Brandon & Stacey - trecreative.com
I'm a bit partial when it comes to this one because it hits so close to home. From the smile she has when she talks about her groom to cry-heavy vows she uses, it's a mirror image of myself. It also doesn't help that this couple's film was shot by a videographer team from Chico (who just got married, congrats Stephen & Chelsey!).
I lose my cool when she tells her groom that when he told her she was beautiful, she finally believed it. It's such an honest sentiment to spill in a vow and really lets the viewer in on their relationship dynamic. The groom's vows are also highlighted when he reveals the best decision he's made: her.
Book a Videographer If you can swing it budget wise, having a wedding film is definitely something to consider for any couple. In addition to being unique each time, a videographer can capture fast-paced wedding day details and emotions in first-person way, so you (and family members who could or could not attend) can revisit your special day as if it was happening again.
Though trecreative.com was highlighted, there are many more local options to explore.
Research online or book us for an hourly consultation to find the best videographer for your special day!
Tips To Keep Young Children Occupied At A Wedding
Children attending a wedding can be a touchy subject. You may be planning a formal event, your venue may or may not allow kids, or your budget may not allow room to pay for a child's attendance. Or perhaps you just prefer that your weddings be kid free - an evening where adult family and friends can come together and celebrate - which I totally respect and understand. There are no words to describe how much I love my daughter, but I would much prefer to attend a wedding sans baby - giving myself and hot date (my husband of course!) a night free of graham cracker smears and adult conversation - and dancing! Some other attendees may feel differently: cousin Jane R.S.V.P'd five people (two adults, and three kids), when clearly the invitation was addressed only to Mr. and Mrs. John & Jane Doe; or your friend Stacy's babysitter cancelled last minute; or perhaps you invited the entire Smith Family intentionally (2 parents and 4 kids!) There are many reasons children attend weddings - hopefully, it is because you requested their presence, but circumstances arise that may be our of your control. Fortunately, you have 530 Bride Event Coordinators to help you navigate the child attendance dilemma.
Below are some ideas to help you control the uncontrollable, and maintain your desired atmosphere by providing some entertainment to keep your little guests occupied and well-behaved.
1. Designate a separate kid-friendly space!
Look to see if your venue has a separate room or outdoor space that would be available to act as a 'childcare' setting. Hire a babysitter(s) and pay them an hourly wage. Make sure you have an appropriate babysitter to child ratio, and sitters who are CPR trained. Parents will want to make sure that their child is sufficiently cared for. For kids who are relatively young, make sure your space is child-proofed. For example, cover electrical outlets, make sure stairs are blocked off with a gate, and breakable items are stored out of reach. Bring in books, movies, coloring books, or other craft items to keep children occupied.
2. Offer a kid-friendly menu and dining table!
Designate a "kids table" where kids can eat unbreakable dinner wear (paper plates and plastic cups for example.) If you feel up to it, provide a more kid friendly main dish (chicken strips, hamburgers, carrot sticks, 100% fruit juice, cheese sticks, etc.) You may opt to avoid foods like spaghetti that may end up staining a young boy's clean white shirt. Cover the kids table with a paper 'tablecloth' and allow kids to draw silly versions of the bride and groom.
3. Provide alternate activities!
- Provide kid-friendly (quiet) activities. For example: coloring books, crayons, quiet toys (foam blocks, bubbles (kids love bubbles!), balloons), puppet show, hop scotch or other crafts. Avoid providing kids with balls, bats, swords, or other fun toys turned weapons. A fun game of wiffle ball or tag would be fine if there was a space away from your reception area.
- If it fits within your theme (and budget), you could hire outside entertainment (like a magic show!)
- Show a "drive-in" movie. Lay some blankets on the ground, pop some popcorn, hang a sheet, and feature a popular Disney movie.
- Give kids some glow sticks, and let them have their own dance party.
- Get a polaroid camera and some photo booth props (mustaches, boas, hats, sunglasses, dry erase board with markers, etc.) and allow the kids to create and enjoy their own photo booth.
4. Include them!
Depending on their age, you can always include them by give them jobs, such as manning the guest book table, helping guests find their seats, or passing out wedding programs.
5. Don't be afraid to designate a person to monitor out-of-control behavior!
However you decide to provide entertainment to children - or not provide alternative activities - ideally, a parent or guardian should be responsible for their children's behavior. It is your big day, which entitles you to whatever type of ceremony and reception atmosphere you and your groom desire. However, sometimes our hopes do not turned out as planned - in extreme circumstances, be prepared to have an individual that can nip chaotic behavior before it ruins the atmosphere and vibe of your wedding.
We'd love to hear our 530 Brides thoughts and ideas on innovative ways to include children in your wedding!
Posted by 530 Bride Event Coordinator, Alisha Rouland (alisha@the530bride.com)
Invitations: Set The Tone
Finding an invitation that matches your overall theme and vision for your event is sort of like finding your dress, ( when you know, you know.) Invitations give your guests the information they need in order to make plans to attend & guests will also be getting a sneak peak about what to expect at the event. Save The Dates can tie in with your overall theme & stationery or you can think outside the box with the style to really have fun with it. Here are a few styles that could set the tone for your big day! 1. This elegant design ties in any chalkboard elements you may be using and could easily fit in with a DIY/Rustic wedding or and elgant affair. Very versatile & fun!
A Chalkboard Marriage Wedding Invitations
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2. Lighthearted
Pink Primrose Wedding Invitations
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3. Turning the expected into the unexpected!
Vintage Typography Poster Save the Date Cards
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4. Elegant
French Vintage Wedding Invitations
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5. So Ombre!
Ombre Stripes Save the Date Cards
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6. Wedding Gram meets glam, just add a metallic envelope and done!
WeddingGram Wedding Invitations
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7. Seedpack Invites will match with your garden or eco themed event
Seed Packet Wedding Invitations
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8. Who doesn't love Tiffany Blue?
Bookbinder Wedding Invitations
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9. Proud to Serve
Air Force Salute Wedding Invitations
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10. Keep it simple, all we need is love
Picnic Basket Wedding Invitations
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Whether you have custom invitations made, use a retail company or DIY your stationary we know that the options are endless! If you need assistance with invitations, wording, rsvp tracking & more we are here to help.
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Organizing your Day of Timeline
A wedding timeline or "order of events" is the glue that holds all of your wedding plans together. Your vendors will rely on the timeline to allow them to work cohesively with each other and your guests will enjoy a well organized order of events to let them know what is happening next.
Creating the timeline involves not only the couple but each of the vendors should be able to review and give suggestions before for the final timeline is decided. Being aware of how much time is required for bridal portraits & family shots will be important so the caterer will have the food out at the correct time, the limo picks the couple up at the right time etc.
When you are selecting your wedding vendors and finalizing your agreement make sure to ask them confirm how many hours are included in the package or service. Then confirm what time they expect to arrive and depart from the event. These times should be noted on the master or vendor timeline, ensuring everyone is on the same page.
Every wedding is different, so the couple should feel free to re-arrange the timeline to what feels right for them. For instance if the bride wants to have the photographer in the room during hair and make-up, the make-up artist and hairstylist should be aware of what time the photographer would need the bride to be photo-ready! Other factors include whether or not the couple will see each other before the wedding, if they would like to have an extended or standard cocktail hour, distance from ceremony site to venue (if separate locations.) If the couple is leaving to their honeymoon or to an offsite hotel, the photographer won't want to miss the friends & family "sending off" the couple.
Often times several of the vendors will have their own basic of the order of events drawn up after your initial consultation, but if you can hire a coordinator he or she can ensure that all aspects of the timeline will run smoothly. A coordinator will be able to spot any areas that might otherwise be missed, and will also be able to establish cues for certain vendors like the DJ or Musicians to play a specific song or make a requested announcement. Adding notes on the timeline such as listing the names of the wedding party in the order they will walk down the aisle and order they will be announced will allow the DJ to find the information easily.
Make sure you have given yourself plenty of time to finalize your timeline, and do not hesitate to ask your vendors to look it over! Feel free to contact us regarding any timeline questions or concerns for your big day.
~Happy Planning!~ The 530 Bride Team
__________________________ The 530 Bride offers creative and affordable event coordination. We utilize a toolkit designed to keep our clients organized during their planning process. We offer a complimentary consultation and are available for a la carte services such as creating or reviewing your wedding timeline, communicating with vendors, completing projects & more.
'Real' Wedding Budgets
Two of the ladies here at The 530 Bride are having weddings this summer!
Kendall Arelleis and her hubby—after having initially eloped—have finally decided to have a reception celebration to share with loved ones; and newbie Christina Rafael is getting hitched in just two short months. Many details will follow on both upcoming local weddings and we thought we'd share their budget-savvy, meaning not $25k, expense breakdown to give you just a taste of how you can have a rockin' wedding at any price.
Up first is Christina's rustic-romantic backyard wedding, (a neutral color palette with hints of blush and burlap), on a Saturday in May. Her guest list is 80-90 people and she has been planning, off and on, since getting engaged in February 2012. She made her dream wedding possible with thrift and antique store shopping, DIY Projects, and discounted services from professional friends.
Below is a rough outline of her budget:
Ceremony & Reception Venues: Free. Family home. Wedding Dress: $99. Accessories: $65. Hair/Makeup: $130. Tuxedo Rental: $214.98. Rings: $220. Stationary: $263. Cake: $160. Food Services: Gift from family. Catering estimated at $500, not sure on drinks. Photography: $1,000. Florist: $120. Music: $200. Decor: $400. Includes water dispensers, cake stands, fabric for DIY projects, 12 paper lanterns, etc. Rentals: $691.52. Tables, chairs and linens plus out of town delivery.
Cutting that budget and guest list in half, Kendall will be having an Art Deco, gold and pink, Thursday June wedding. Her guest list is around 40, she's been planning for 5 months, and she made her dream wedding possible with saving and recycling item like mason jars, shopping sales, and DIY projects galore; maybe she'll start an Etsy!
Below is a rough outline of her budget:
Ceremony & Reception Venues: $400 Wedding Coordinator: Gift from Veronica here at The 530 Bride! Wedding Dress: $300 + Alterations (pricing TBD) Accessories: $90 Hair/Makeup: TBD, but quoted a discount by Professional Stylist friend for $25/hr Tuxedo Rental: $200 Stationary: $125 Cake: $150 Food Services: $200 Photography: Gift from Professional Photographer friend! Florist: $200 Music: Gift from Professional cousin! Misc Decor: $640 (Includes centerpieces, cake stands, specialty cardstock, votives, ribbon, chalkboard paint, frames, and stencil embosser) Tablecloths & Napkins: $160 Rentals: Labor trade with local vendor!
A word of caution to those looking to cut corners: Weddings come in different shapes and sizes,and while no budget is right or wrong, not all choices made in the name of budget are a good deal. - Be wary of hiring students, craigslist posters, and inexperienced but well-meaning family. They are not "professionals", and while it may be kind of you to give them the experience to hone their skills, do you really want to risk food-poisoning, blurry pictures, or a coordinator who's even more overwhelmed than you? Make a point with every vendor to not settle on anyone until you've seen their portfolio of work and client testimonials. - If a vendor's price quote is going to make or break whether or not you hire them, be absolutely candid with them about your budget. Don't be afraid to ask if they are willing to make a customized package, a payment plan, or allow you to put their service on your wedding registry. - If you think it's going to be cheaper to buy than to rent, think again. Your purchase may not be of the same high quality that a vendor offers, or may have hidden costs. For example, you may think that buying linens and then selling them after the wedding makes more sense, but consider the that you need to have them ironed or they will be wrinkled on the tables, and if you don't dry clean them after the wedding, they will stain. Not to mention the increase in price for paying rather than renting, the risk of a low thread count or sloppy design, and the difficulty to resell, and at a loss.
As real Brides, we too have budget problems. If we had an unlimited budget, we would pick all the highly sought after vendors (and we know who they are!) Sadly, sacrifices must be made. A trick we learned while planning is to weigh out which aspects of your wedding are most important to you and which areas just aren't. Then you can decide how to allot your budget and which vendors are crucial to your vision.
We hope this gives our readers an idea of how to form a wedding budget with limited financial resources; and know that you CAN have your dream wedding, whatever your budget! Happy Planning!
Posted by Kendall Arelleis and Christina Rafael
Tackling Your Pinterest Board: how to focus ideas into a vision
By Christina Rafael
When I first got engaged, back in February 2012, I had a plethora of ideas I wanted to incorporate into my wedding and no idea how to execute them.
Was I a modern bride? Rustic? Should I call vendors? What about my dress?
These were just some of the topics I was mulling over in my brain and obsessing over in my dreams.
I had been planning—like most women I know—an imaginary dream wedding on Pinterest for quite some time before a ring was even introduced by my fiance. Anytime I would see something shiny or pretty, I would pin it. Anytime something made me cry, I would pin it. And anytime I did a mini clap over a creative idea, I would pin it.
I got a bit shameless with my “pinnings” and needless to say, had no focus or clear vision for my big day (May 25th!)
I’m sure I’m not the only person who went a bit overboard with ideas and thought it might be helpful for our 530 Brides to know they aren’t alone!
Here’s some tips on how I was able to condense my ideas, pave the road to planning and communicate with vendors who lacked psychic abilities to know EXACTLY what I wanted.
Take a Good, hard, look at your wedding Pinterest board
I set aside a morning to scan all three hundred pins (I know…) and look through them for repetitive ideas.
I recorded reoccurring themes and colors on post-it’s and found that I pinned, more than often, a LOT of burlap and blush-themed wedding ideas. As a result of this exercise I was able to determine my colors (neutrals with splashes of blush) and bridal style: rustic romantic. I was also able to select DIY projects I could successfully complete.
Folders, folders galore
My wedding folders can be classified as a bit obsessive. Once I was going through my Pinterest on paper I decided to tackle it virtually. I saved actual images from pins to my desktop and classified them by what they applied to.
For example, if I loved a cake design I would have a folder entitled “Reception” and within that folder would be one named “Food”, within THAT folder would be a “cake” folder filled with several photos.
This organization prevented me from getting lost in my own ideas. It also came in handy to show family and vendors photos of what inspired me from my laptop without relying on wifi connection.
Look at vendor websites
One thing I’ve learned as a bride is to pay attention to the vendors you pick and why you pick them.
Many wedding vendors—from caterers to consultants—have social media you can look at to view previous work. If you seem drawn to a certain vendor, make sure to see what they’ve done in the past and branch off of it.
For example, if you find a dessert display (like the one pictured above) on a caterer's Facebook page, reference it to them when you discuss your own plans and discuss why you liked it.
Often times they’ll be flattered, know exactly what you’re talking about and can make it better than it was before.
Call in for re-enforcements
If your vision wanders, you feel overwhelmed or just have a small question as you begin this planning journey, give us a call or comment on a post through our website or on social media . We're always reading our feedback and love to hear from our brides.
Our services are also available, from full planning packages to specialized event coordination. We also offer hour-long consultations where you can get detailed answers to questions, help with vendor planning, guides for invitation wording and much more.
Happy Planning and remember, we're here if you need a hand.
Breaking with Tradition: Writing your Ceremony from Scratch
Over the last century, cultural loyalty to tradition "for the sake of tradition" has gone to the wayside. Weddings in particular have gone from mountains of "unquestionable" etiquette and protocol, to now using tradition as more of a guideline while personalizing anything and everything. One of the most common paths to personalizing your wedding is the vows, or in some cases, the entire ceremony. If you decide to do the latter, you'll find that building a ceremony from scratch is a daunting task. Personally, I begun to question why I was even trying to do it. But if you are one of those brave and creative souls that has your heart set on a ceremony that is unlike any other, here are a few tips.
1. Check with your local government to determine what your ceremony absolutely must include in order for it to be legal. For the most part, all you need is "an oral expression of consent to marry", and the signatures of your officiant witnesses, and of course yourselves, on the license to back up that this indeed did occur.
2. Determine a style that will match your relationship. If you are a rather romantic couple, use your favorite poems, or if you are a different type of serious, say lovers of logic, incorporate quotes about love from scientists or philosophers. If you are a goofy pair, be goofs! It's a celebration of *your* relationship, and if too much seriousness won't reflect you properly, throw the whole notion out.
3. If you aren't a born writer, craft a ceremony built from famous writings. A few places to look for inspiration include books, movies, songs, poetry, and even legal writings. You might be surprised to find how many people incorporate the refreshing simplicity of love in children's books like Dr. Suess and The Lovely Love Story by Edward Monkton.
4. If you have no idea what direction to begin in formatting your ceremony, it's not a betrayal of your creativity to use the skeleton of your average ceremony. Here's a sample outline:
Welcome of Guests (This is where someone, usually your officiant, lets everyone know you're about to begin, and to please be seated, turn off your phones, etc)
Processional (This is the part where you and your gang all make your way down the aisle)
Gathering Words (This part is rare, and is used to thank parents or specific loved one who contributed greatly to helping pull the wedding together. You can choose to do this during your toast instead.)
Declaration of Intention (This is the real beginning of the ceremony, the traditional, "Dearly Beloved, we are gathered here today..."; the officiant talks about you both and your relationship, perhaps your story, how long you've been together, and what they personally have witnessed.)
Definition of Marriage (This part describes the "seriousness of the actions you are about to take", including the personal and cultural importance of marriage. A popular choice for couples is to quote Goodridge Vs. Department of Health)
Vows (This is where you make promises to one another, list your reasons for deciding to marry, or just talk about your love!)
Ring Exchange (It can be as simple as giving each other the rings, or poetizing the moment with something like Richard III Act 1 Scene 2)
Pronouncement (This is the part of "You are now married; Kiss please!")
Recessional (Cue music as you and your party head back down the aisle under a shower of birdseed, petals, bubbles, or ribbon wands)
Readings usually go after the Definition of Marriage, and before the Pronouncement, so there's a lot of freedom there. If you want to add in a unity ceremony, that usually comes just before or after the vows.
No matter what you decide to do with your ceremony wording, just remember, it's *your* wedding, and it should feel like it!
Happy Planning!
Posted by Kendall Arelleis, Event Coordinator with The 530 Bride
A Bride's Something Blue
Chances are you have heard the phrase, "Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue." There are many great articles about the originations of this phrase, but one of the most concise articles is found here. In a nutshell: something old connects the brides family and the past and offers continuity in her future; something new represents hope and good fortune in the couples future; something borrowed is usually an item lent to the bride from a happily married mature women (mother, grandmother, etc.) to share her happiness, good fortune and joy with the bride; and something blue symbolizes love, purity and faithfulness. This tradition may or not may be for you, and is absolutely not a predictor of your future married life, but it can be fun to incorporate the past, present, and future, and can provide a great memory and photographs. Below I have put together a few fun ideas for incorporating "something blue" into your wedding:
1. Shoes. There are many ways to have something blue on your shoes: rock all blue shoes, add some blue bling to the bottom of your shoe, or add a blue shoe clip.
2. Nail Polish. Light blue, dark blue, teal, aqua, solid, striped, dots, ombre, glitter - any shade of blue or style works!
3. Bridal Bouquet. Add a bedazzled blue broach or blue bouquet charm, or have a whole bouquet of blue or add just a splash of blue with an accent flower.
4. Jewelry. Earrings and Necklaces and Bracelets and Rings and Brooches - oh my, the possibilities are endless. Jewelry can also double as your "something borrowed," "something old," or "something new."
5. Garter. Any amount of blue will do - a light splash of color or solid blue.
6. Hair Accessories. Accentuate your hair with blue clips, pins, headbands, or a blue flower.
7. Wedding Dress. No, no - don't worry, I do not mean a blue wedding dress - just add some fun colorful accents to your dress. Embroider your wedding date, add a pop of blue in a sash, add a monogrammed label, or take something old and blue and sew it into your new dress.
**Some other ideas you may enjoy**
Wipe away your tears of joy with a blue handkerchief. Add a sweet blue note to your grooms tie. Wear blue undergarments. Add a touch of blue to a clutch. Blue ring holder. And hey, if blue isn't your color - there is always a perfume- hey, it's your party, and you can do whatever you want to do!
Posted by Alisha Rouland, Event Coordinator with The 530 Bride
Free DIY Resources
Tackling a do-it-yourself wedding project is a great way to add a personal touch to your event while impressing guests with unique ideas and creativity. Though many DIY projects can save money and are fun to create with bridesmaids, they can also be time consuming. Fortunately many wedding websites offer free resources for visiting brides—in the form of print templates and speedy projects —that bring the fun back to crafting your special day!
Here are a few of our recent finds online that we'd like to share with our 530 brides.
Please make sure to follow any copyright or use instructions on the following websites.
We would love to see your finished creations and feel free to share the resources you have found along your journey!
~Happy Planning~
A Whole Collection of Adorable Mason Jar Designs.
Free Guestbook Fingerprint Tree Print.
Free Chevron Patterned Print for Invitations, Save the Dates and Inserts Cards.